From CASUAL to COMMITMENT

What are Steps to go From CASUAL to COMMITMENT?

Love Relationships don't start out that way. Even when you "fall in love" or have "love at first sight" there are steps that happen that turn your lover affair into a love relationship. You can be infatuated, be in limerance (limerence is an involuntary emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person) or feel true love. Real Love Dynamics include the possibility of experiencing lovematism.

When simply defined, love relationships go through an evolution, actually phases, and this happens even in arranged marriages.

3 Phases of Relationship

Established Phase leads to and can include Commitment Accommodating Phase is Serious. Lots of "deal-breakers" in this phase. Dating Phase is Casual

 

Here we are talking about LOVER RELATIONSHIPS: Between two consenting adults who have deep love and affection for one another.

These are not relationships by default (see definition of relationship by default) that you fall into unintentionally and just don't get out of because you got comfortable. People get married in relationships by default because they settle, they think too much time has passed or they are scared to go out alone and start over.

The most passionate love relationships are filled with sexual dynamics, personal values alignment, harmonized individual truth, clarity of purpose in relationship design, a longing for spiritual growth and expansion, benevolent power, courage to take action and risk rejection, and individual and shared creativity in many forms of expression. Relationship designs are a personal choice fueled by your desire to fill your life with lovematism.      

"Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities, because it is the quality which guarantees all others."
~Winston Churchill

"It takes serious COURAGE to make a commitment to a love relationship."
~The Love Linguist

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Some definitions for the words "casual", "serious", "commitment", "phase" and "relationship" from:  http://www.thefreedictionary.com

CASUAL definition
ca·su·al
adj.
1. Occurring by chance.
2.
a. Occurring at irregular or infrequent intervals; occasional: casual employment at a factory
b. Unpremeditated; offhand
3.
a. Being without ceremony or formality; relaxed: a casual evening with friends.
4. Not serious or thorough; superficial
5.
a. Showing little interest or concern; nonchalant
b. Lenient; permissive
6. Not close or intimate; passing: a casual acquaintance

SERIOUS definition

se·ri·ous
adj.

1.
a. Carried out in earnest
b. Deeply interested or involved: a serious romantic relationship.
c. Designed for and addressing grave and earnest tastes: serious art; serious music; serious love affair.
d. Not trifling or jesting: I'm serious: Her question was serious enough to deserve a thoughtful response.
e. Informal Of considerable size or scope; substantial
f. Of such character or quality as to appeal to the expert, the connoisseur, or the sophisticate: "Every serious prorelator knows the power of relationship designs." ( The Love Linguist).
2. Concerned with important rather than trivial matters: a serious student of love.
3.
a. Being of such import as to cause anxiety: a serious turn of events.

COMMITIMENT definition

com·mit·ment
n.
1. The act or an instance of committing, especially:
2.
a. A pledge to do.
b. Something pledged, especially an engagement by contract involving financial obligation.
3. The state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action or to another person or persons: a deep commitment to marriage; a profound commitment to the family.

PHASE definition

phase
n.
1. A distinct stage of development: "Love Relationships fall into three distinct phases." (The Love Linguist).
2. A temporary manner, attitude, or pattern of behavior: just a passing phase.
3. An aspect; a part: every phase of the operation.
4. Physics
a. A particular stage in a periodic process or phenomenon.
5. Biology A characteristic form, appearance, or stage of development that occurs in a cycle or that distinguishes some individuals of a group: the three phases of love relationships.

RELATIONSHIP definition
n.
1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association.
2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship.
3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.
4. A romantic or sexual involvement
5. An emotional or sexual affair or liaison.
6. The mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, people, etc. a business relationship

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:  Are you a student of love?  What is the future of love? Do you know real love dynamics? What are the 5 Love Dynamics? Do you know how to fill the love bucket of your lover?